First, do no harm

Chakras, Auras and Energetic Boundaries, Part 2

If someone says to you, “I feel nauseous,” or “ooh, my stomach aches,” do you feel nauseous? I have experienced this, and so have many of my clients.

Here’s what you can do:

Ask yourself, “Is this nausea mine, or my friend’s?”

“How was I feeling before my friend told me she or he felt nauseous?”

Reconnect with how you were feeling before you had the conversation, and you will know what is yours and what is not yours.

If you take the time to do this for your own well being, not only will you no longer feel nauseous when your friend does. You will begin to use your ability to sense what someone else is feeling, without doing any harm to yourself.

You know the famous healers’ code, “First, do no harm?”

“DO NO HARM” applies to YOU, not just to others.

You can be a caring, sensitive, compassionate person, without being a sponge. Sponge: a person who soaks up other people’s feelings. It is easier to not be a sponge when you are conscious of your purpose in tuning in to someone. Do a self check-in:

Do I need to feel how they feel, in order be of service?

Am I functioning in a capacity, such as teacher, therapist, parent or artist, where it helps me to know how others feel?

You may be an Empath. If you are an empath, it’s even more important to gain authority over this valuable skill.

Some people who are empaths developed the ability to read the energy in the field around them, sometimes as children growing up in chaotic or unsafe environments. We had to be on alert for a parent who might have been a rager or an alcoholic. (I raise my hand here.)

If you are one of these people, you may have used your 6^th chakra, or Third Eye, to compensate for the lack of safety. Your physical boundaries, which are in your lower chakras, may not have fully developed, because you weren’t physically safe. You couldn’t change your environment. The adults had power that you didn’t have. So you used your spiritual centers (your psychic super-powers) to scope out the environment and avoid trouble.

That worked for us in childhood, but now, as adults, we may find ourselves tuning in to other people’s moods and feelings just because we can. It’s almost like we’re operating on auto pilot. Your body is still on alert, and even when your current environment poses no actual threat to you, your chakras are still calibrated to function how you needed them to, years ago.

Now, you have a choice. You don’t have to tune in to other people’s feelings, just because you can.

You can choose when it is appropriate, and you can be clear, “This is information. These feelings are not mine.”

Ask yourself these questions:

• In this present moment, am I safe?
• In this instance, is feeling what belongs to someone else serving me? How?
• Is it serving them? Or am I standing between them and something they need to learn to deal with?

When our boundaries are intact, we don’t absorb other people’s emotions. We know what is ours to deal with, and what is not.

Having trouble getting in touch with your own feelings? Here’s how to get in touch with your Inner Body.

Empowering Presence/Squeezing out the Sponge

• Take a few minutes of time alone, even if it means retreating to a bathroom or a closet
• Inhale on the count of 3 or 4, whatever is more comfortable
• Exhale on the count of 6 or 8, for twice as long as you inhale
• Do this until your breath slows down
• Next, focus on the quiet place at the end of your out breath. As you focus here, notice that the quiet expands
• Now you are on neutral ground. From here, you can easily check in with what Eckhart Tolle, in The Power of Now, calls your inner body.

For sensitive people, gaining authority over the gift of empathy is a much needed skill.

What situations in your life indicate that your chakras are out of balance and your boundaries are need help?

I’ve created a class, “Chakras, Auras and Boundaries,” to address these issues and more. Check my classes page or email me to learn more.